The 33 Best Gay Sex Positions to Spice Up Your Relationship!

There’s more to a healthy relationship than sex, but it’s impossible to deny the importance of a great sex life and sexual compatibility in most relationships. With a few exceptions, most people in a relationship admit that the sexual chemistry and energy they feel is part of what keeps their relationship going…

Even among people who have been together for several years, there is always the awareness that their sex life has to be kept fresh to prevent ennui from setting in. That is how vital great sex is in a relationship, and it’s the same for gay relationships.

Whether you’re in a traditional monogamous relationship, an open relationship, or even a polyamorous one, a sex life that’s constantly evolving and improving, as well as partners who are willing to experiment and try new things, are key to maintaining a fun relationship. Experimenting with a sex practice does not necessarily mean that you have to adopt it, but by trying several, you’ll be sure to come across one or two activities that you and your partners agree on.

One of the easier and less tasking ways to spice up your relationship is by exploring sextet positions. Trying out things like kinks or BDSM usually requires buying equipment which may be costly. It may also involve going to clubs, and not everyone is comfortable enough to make such adjustments. On the other hand, a new sex position only requires a bit of flexibility as well as a willingness to explore. You don’t even have to leave the comfort of your bedroom or living room or wherever you and your partner or partners have sex.

Before you try a new sex position, it’s important for all the people involved to have a conversation about it. It doesn’t have to be a two-hour meeting with coffee served, but suggesting a new position in the middle of the act may not always go down well, especially if it’s a relatively complex one that your partner may not be prepared for, or even capable of.

So, bring up the topic of trying a so-and-so position, and see if your partner is open to or interested in it. This way, if y’all are already in bed sometime later and you suggest it again, it won’t come as a surprise. Bringing it up earlier will also help you find out what, if any, adjustments the other partners may need for that position. Things like lube, pillows for support, or a sturdy piece of furniture like a chair or cabinet may be needed, and you can make arrangements for those things.

 In everything, remember that a sex position should bring about pleasure for all involved. Convincing a painter to try a certain position when you enjoy it and they don’t may sour your sex life and cause long-term damage. Instead, try and find out the reasons why they’re not into your idea and see if there’s anything to fix the problem.

For example, you may discover that your partner is not open to frothing because the friction is more uncomfortable than pleasurable to them. This may be remedied with adequate lubricant. If they are simply not open to your suggestion, you can try to compromise and suggest a similar position that they like or maybe discuss and explore your top or bottom roles (if they are rigidly defined currently). That way, the two of you can find something that you both enjoy.

To help you get started with finding new and exciting sex positions to try, here is a list of a few that can help inject that spark into your relationship. Stock up Pure For Men and make sure you are douch’d and ready because stuff is about to get wild…

Missionary Position

We’ll give you a few seconds to get the groaning and eye-rolling over with. The missionary position is famously known as the white bread of sex positions, but just like white bread, whose versatility and adaptability is legendary, the possibilities of the missionary position are endless. It allows for a lot of things that aren’t necessarily possible in more daring sex positions. Things like kissing and direct eye contact, which can turn the heat up to an eleven, are possible.

With a little maneuvering, the top (the person doing the penetration), can jerk the bottom (the person being penetrated) off. The bottom can also be stimulated by the friction of their bodies rubbing together. The top can change the angle of penetration easily, according to the directions of the top. Choking is also possible in this position.

Picture it; a hand wrapped gently and firmly around the neck, each thrust hitting the sweet spot exactly, a tongue feathering gently across trembling lips, soul-searching eye contact…whew. We’re getting hot and bothered just thinking about it.

Dildo Play

Implementing dildos while engaging with your receptive partner prior to your preferred anal sexual activities, which could be conventional anal intercourse, can offer an extraordinary experience for him and serve as a true exercise in affectionate dominance for you. This applies both during anal intercourse and in moments when you’re skillfully handling the toys.

One notable advantage of anal pleasure toys is their ability to let you focus entirely on the gratification you’re providing your partner. You have more control, and the sight of a dildo gliding in and out of his posterior will undeniably arouse you. Furthermore, dildos remain firm from start to finish, eliminating any concern of reaching climax before your partner is thoroughly satisfied. They also tend to offer better maneuverability.

You could indeed reach for the toy box at the onset of your intimate encounter, but taking the time to rotate him and affectionately stroke, kiss, and lick his anus can be a pleasing prelude. Express your admiration for his posterior. Devote time to rimming him, massaging his buttocks, and gently stimulating his genitals. Lubricate your fingers and explore the inner recesses of his anus. You’ll feel when his anal muscles tense up and when they’re at ease.

The initial penetration as the dildo enters him can be a breathtaking moment for the receptive partner. With a long-term partner, you’re likely aware of his preferences in size and may have a variety of his preferred dildos. With a new partner, begin with a moderately sized dildo and progressively increase the size, each step gently widening his anus. We personally recommend using a realistic dildo from His Tipp, available in two sizes and designed for ultimate pleasure. Crafted with double-layered, soft silicone, this lifelike, veiny suction cup dildo can be enjoyed hands-free or in partner play.

Deliver slow thrusts, rotate the toy, and swirl the tip within him. Heighten the sensation with quick, forceful thrusts. Mix up your thrusting pattern to keep him in suspense.

By using dildos, you’ll stimulate his prostate. He may climax multiple times before you actually penetrate him. Even when using larger toys, potentially larger than your own size, you needn’t worry about your size seeming anticlimactic. You can sensitise him to such an extent that your human-sized member fits perfectly.

Apart from the physical thrill of penetration, the passive partner often finds immense joy in knowing that his active partner is fully giving himself to him. The active partner can elevate this sensation by vividly communicating—through words, sounds, and touch—his desire to be inside him. Tease your partner by making him alternate between orally pleasuring the dildo and you before you penetrate him. Given your careful use of the dildo and focus on his responses, you’ll be assured that your actions align with his pleasure.

After reaching climax, sharing a peaceful moment of silence can be rewarding for both partners. As you bask in the warmth of your afterglow, he can relish the intimate, safe, and connected feeling with you. This sense of fulfillment is often enhanced when you’ve thoroughly stimulated his anal and prostate regions, delivering more pleasure than your penis could on its own.

Doggy

This sex style is perfect for a top who’s confident in their strength and stamina and a bottom who craves the hardest and roughest of rides and is comfortable relinquishing control. The top is majorly in control of the speed, tempo and angle, while the bottom has his hands free to jerk himself off or hold on to the sheets for dear life. If both parties are flexible enough, kissing is also possible.

Doggy style can be adapted for more than two people by forming a doggy train – perfect for furry lovers. All the third partner needs to do is position themselves behind the second and penetrate them from behind. More partners can be involved in the same way, but right around the fourth or fifth, it’ll probably start to get uncomfortable; but hey, what doesn’t work for others just might for you.

Doggy style can also be adapted into the infamous Eiffel tower, where the third partner kneels in front of the bottom and receive a blow job from him. The ‘Eiffel Tower’ is created by both parties touching hands over the bottom, but it’s not necessary.

Spooning

Spooning isn’t always used as a sex position. Sometimes, it simply involves lying back-to-chest with your partner, their hand around your waist or chest. While Spooning is great for encouraging intimacy in relationships, adding spice means that the clothes have to come off.

Eye contact is often impossible (unless the bottom is a master yogi), but the skin-to-skin contact more than makes up for it. It’s great for slow, deep penetration, and because everyone is stretched out comfortably on the bed or floor, there’s no need to rush for fear of cramps or injury. You can be in the position for hours if you want.

As long as you use a large enough surface, it’s great for sex with multiple partners.

Cowboy

Just like in the hetero/ more conventionally known Cowgirl position, the top lies on their back, while the bottom straddles them. The top enters the bottom from underneath. This position is ideal for bottoms who like taking control, as they control the depth of penetration, as well as the speed. The bottom does most of the work by bouncing up and down, although the top can also move his hips up and down.

If there’s a third partner, he can either kneel over the top’s face for a blow job or stand with both feet on either side of the top, with his crotch at the bottom’s eye level. That way, he can receive a blow job or hand job from the bottom. Reverse cowboy is much the same, except this time, the bottom faces away from the top, i.e., their back is towards the top’s face.

Standing 

Just like in the missionary position, the standing position can be adapted in a number of ways. The basic premise of the position is that both partners stand on their feet. For penetration, the bottom usually stands with his back to the top’s front. It’s best to use a lot of lube in this position, or sex might be uncomfortable.

The bottom usually leans against a wall, bending forward slightly, while the top penetrates them from behind. The topped have their hands free to caress the bottom, and they can reach anywhere from their neck to their clothes. The bottom can also reach around to caress the rope or grip their arm. Kissing is even possible if the bottom is flexible; another variation involves the two partners standing facing each other.

While penetration is not possible, there are other fun things to try, like mutual masturbation, jerking each other off, frotting, grinding or exploring some sex toys for gay men.

Sixty-Nine

It would probably be more accurate to call this oral sex since it’s only 69 when there are only two partners involved. In this position, both partners lie all onside achieve other, their heads in opposite directions but facing each other, so they can give each other blow jobs. Their positions mirror the numbers 6 and 9 placed side by side, hence the name of the position.

When multiple partners are involved, though, it is called a daisy chain, as the partners usually in, head to crotch, and link to each other, forming a circle. It’s a nice intimate, heady position that makes for some mind-blowing orgasms. The daisy chain can be as long as space permits, so it’s great for orgies. 

The Human Centipede

This position is more advanced and niche. It’s also exclusively for multiple partners, as two partners will not be able to mutually pleasure each other. Each partner kneels on all fours and rims – performs anilingus on – the person in front of them.

With enough people, a loop can be formed to circle back to the first person. It’s like a daisy chain, except that it involves eating assume instead of a blowjob. 

The Rusty Trombone

The rusty trombone is strictly a two-pronged activity, although an even number of partners can pair off to try it. It involves one partner standing up, legs roughly a shoulder-width apart. The other partner then kneels or squats behind him, performing anilingus, while at the same time stroking his penis with one hand. It’s called the rusty trombone because the act looks like blowing a trombone.

Another variant may involve penetrating the anus with fingers, instead of rimming.

Bumper Cars

Why are the Western names for sex positions so weird? Some cultures have sensual names like Dancing Lily and Hovering Butterfly, while we’re stuck with Screwdriver and Fire Hydrant and Wheelbarrow. It’s sex, not a toolshed! We need to do better.

Awkward name aside, ‘bumper cars’ is a sex position that gay and straight couples can enjoy. In this position, the bottom lays on his stomach with his legs splayed open. The top also lies down on his stomach facing 180 degrees in the opposite direction, with his legs splayed wide open as well. He then adjusts his position, sliding upwards until his legs are on either side of the bottom’s, and his penis is aligned with the bottom’s anus.

Now in position and still facing the opposite direction, he can penetrate carefully. It involves quite a bit of agility, and penetration is usually not very deep, but some guys enjoy this position.

Lap Dance

Don’t panic; there’s no dancing involved in this position. The top sits down with his legs apart and his feet firmly against the ground. The bottom then sits in his lap while the top penetrates him from under. Both their hands are free, so the top can stimulate the bottom by pinching his nipples or jerking him off (or even both).

Alternatively, the bottom can stroke his own member. The bottom usually controls the pace, as he has to lift and lower himself unto the top’s member.

Suspended Congress

This position usually involves a smaller, lighter bottom and a bigger, stronger top. Here, the top stands on his feet, knees slightly bent. He then lifts the bottom up and penetrates him. The bottom wraps his legs around the top’s waist for balance, and the top thrusts upwards while essentially bearing all the top’s weight.

If the bottom is too heavy, he can help support himself by holding onto support above him, although this is not usually the case. This position isn’t for amateurs, as penetration is quite deep, and the top is in complete control.

Teaspoons

This is a variant of Doggy, except instead of the bottom being on all fours, they are also on their knees, so the top’s front is in contact with their back. The top’s hands are free to roam the bottom’s body, and the bottom can angle his head for a kiss.

Hole Teasing

This position is great for prolonging the pleasure. Instead of direct penetration, the top rubs his member across and around the bottom’s anus. He may also penetrate, but only with the head of his penis. In this manner, both parties are stimulated, but not enough to bring them to climax.

Teabagging

Teabagging involves the bottom orally stimulating the balls. The penis can be left alone or stroked by the top or the bottom. It can be done in a number of positions and during sexual intercourse involving multiple partners.

The Warrior

The warrior sex position is similar to the Amazon for straight couples. It’s close to the cowboy, but instead of the top to lie stretched out, he brings his legs up to the tabletop position, so his knees are bent upwards towards his chest. If he is flexible, he can even bring them to his chest.

The bottom squats above him and moves up and down for stimulation. The revere warrior involves the bottom facing in the other direction, just like in the reverse cowboy.

Side By Side

The mind-blowing quality of this gay sex position is that it allows for deeper penetration because of the larger opening the bottom has created with his raised leg. This position involves little stress because you and your partner would be lying down. I recommend this position if you aim to have mind-blowing passionate sex with your partner.

If you are at the bottom, you should lie down on your back with one leg thrust out and the other leg bent at the knee. Bring the bent leg as far as you can toward your shoulder; you can support your knee with your hand if need be.

Then your partner should lie on his side facing you with his body perpendicular to yours. He can slide his cock into your asshole easily from this angle.

Lotus

This is the perfect sex position when you and your partner are celebrating an important event like an anniversary. You guys can get a lot of eye gazing, deep kissing, and face stroking since you are both facing each other. This position comes with a lot of deep penetration, so it is better to allow the top guy to create a thrusting rhythm since they have more ability to control their hips back and forth.

Sit with your knees bent towards the sides with the bottom of your feet touching, just like in the butterfly style in yoga.

Then your partner will sit in your lap, facing you, and wrap their legs around your back. Your partner should seat very close to you so that your cock can easily reach his anus for penetration.

Butt Massage

If you are a fan of foreplay, then this gay sex position is for you. This position involves rubbing your partner’s buttocks in a slow sensual manner. You could also stroke your dick while at it for simultaneous pleasure.

Let your partner lie down on his stomach with his legs spread. Then, you can sit or lie in between his spread legs.

Once you are in a comfortable position, you can massage your lover’s butt with your hand or any sex toy you like. It helps to make use of massage oils. You are sure to drive your lover insane by gradually increasing the intensity of the massage around his asshole.

Bodyguard

This involves the bottom standing and facing the same place as the top allowing the top full access to his asshole.

The bottom should hold onto a wall or table for support. You can hold onto your partner’s neck or grab his shoulders while slamming your dick into me.

Kneeling Oral Sex

This position is great when you want to skip penetration and just get your rock off. It is even sweeter when you stroke your partner’s cock while pushing your dick down his throat. You can hold to the headboard of the bed to give yourself more leverage in trusting while your partner licks and sucks, which adds to the pleasure.

Make your partner lie on his back. Kneel over them with your knees on either side of his head. It is important to bring your cock close enough to your partner’s lips so that he can easily take you into his mouth.

PuKnee Up

know it sounds weird but trust me, it is a mind-blowing sex position. It offers maximum exposure to the asshole, hence, allowing very deep penetration. It is advisable to get your partner very ready by engaging in a lot of foreplay, and ensure you have used plenty of lube.

Your partner lies on his back. While standing, you can grab your partner’s calves, knees, or ankles. You can then push your partner’s leg towards your chest while thrusting into him. Sex gets more interesting when you push your partner’s leg harder.

Cliff Driver

This is easily one of the best sex positions ever. It provides insane intimacy as you can dive your dick into your partner like never before. To enjoy this position, it is important to use lubrication and protection.

Your partner should get on all fours while you penetrate him from behind. You can stand and lift your partner by his waist or thigh. Then, wrap your legs around him and penetrate.

Superman

This style is as power packed as who it is named after. It is an acrobatic form of sex that demands a lot of energy.

Firstly, you both need to get a good chair. Then, you sit on the chair, making your body elongated, and your partner can mount away from you or towards you. He must balance himself.

The superman style comes in two forms; in the face-to-face position, your partner, who is the bottom, leans back while you grasp his wrist to offer balance. Your partner should now lift his leg as though he wants to fly while you control the thrusting.

For the back-to-face position, the bottom mounts the top and inserts the cock into himself. After, he now leans forwards and throws his arms backward so that the top can grasp his wrists. Then, the bottom lifts his legs flying along with the rhythm the top creates.

Bonus points will be awarded if you manage to use this gay sex position after going as superman for your gay Halloween costume…

Squatters Rights

This is one of those gay sex positions that are right up your alley if you love oral sex. This involves you and your partner offering each other mutual pleasure. This style is also perfect for people who love playing fellatio. This style centers on pleasing the nipples. Naturally, nipples are one hell of an erogenous zone for men.

Let your partner lie flat on his back; then, you can squat and hover over his face, facing his nipples and penis.

Then your partner can reach forward and grab your nipples in each hand while at the same time lowering his cock into your mouth. This is a very delicious sex position for sides to try out. You can get tired of squatting, but you can easily rest on each of your knees on either side of your partner’s face. This would help you enjoy yourself longer.

The Rocking Chair

From the name of this position, you can probably already deduce what it’s about. We do have to warn you, though, that you have to be installed and have – or at least reasonably fit- before you try it.

Nothing puts you off sex faster than a persistent cramp from using a muscle that hasn’t seen action in years. This applies to both the top and bottom, as you both have quite a bit of work to do. So step up your workout routine and do some stretches before you get into this; for this position, the top lies back and pulls his knees up to his chest, spreading his legs so the top can sit back words between them, putting the top’s penis into himself as he does so,

Once he’s gotten into a comfortable position and straddled the top fully, the bottom starts to rock back and forth. In this position, he has full control of the angle of penetration and can even lift himself up and down a few times. If the top is fit enough, he can also thrust upward, but we advise that he just lay back and enjoy the ride.

See-Saw

When it comes to this position, our philosophy is different strokes for different folks, no pun intended. Quite a bit of athleticism is required to perform it successfully, but once you get the hang of it, you can say goodbye to boring sex for around least are few weeks until you get tired, literally and figuratively.

For this position, you’re going to need a clean floor, a chair and a top with a hell of a strong back. The top has to lie on the ground and balance his power legs on a chair, making sure his whole body forms a straight line. The bottom then straddles the top’s thighs and inserts the top’s penis into him. Now one or both parties can rock against each other.

The top thrusts his dick up and down by lifting and lowering his waist, while the bottom also raises and lowers his ass, rocking his torso back and forth as well; it’s quite a complex style, although one you have to try if you love exploring

Pile Driver

A necessary essential for this position is a flexible bottom. That aside, this is probably one of the most intense and pleasurable positions for gay sex. Both the top and bottom are in their element, so to speak. The bottom gets to lie back and receive maximum penetrative, while the top is in full control, as he has to do the thrusting. For this position, you need a couch or a bed of medium height.

The bottom lies on the ground with their back flat against it. Their legs are raised so that they are at ninety degrees to his body. He then spreads his legs while the top squats over him, legs on either side of his body. He then ducks the bottom by moving as if he’s doing squats. He can also grip the bottom’s legs and hold them wide open, while the bottom can stroke his dick with one hand.

Pirate’s Bounty

If you’re finally tired of stringing your back and legs and twisting yourself like a rope, Pirate’s Bounty requires relatively low effort. All the bottom has to do is lie back on the ground or a bed, lift one of his legs up and bend the other one at an angle.

The top then kneels between his legs, facing him, and penetrative him in that position. The top can grip the bottom’s legs or thighs and then place one hand on his waist. Alternatively, he can use one of his hands to stroke the bottom and even fondle his nipples. This position allows both partners to see each other during sex. With a little effort, they can even kiss.

As to why it’s called Pirate’s Bounty, we can’t say for sure as we first heard about it on Onlyfans, but who cares? If it makes you come so hard you see stars; we’re up for it.

Jockey

Jockey is one of the most simple yet intense gay sex positions we can imagine. It’s one of those hidden gems that get people hooked once they try it. Basically, the bottom lies flat on their front while the top stretches across his body so that they’re parallel to each other. The top then penetrates the bottom, so he’s lying with his front to the bottom’s back.

He then balances himself on his forearms so that his torso is elevated and rocks his hips up and down or forward and backward, depending on which is more pleasurable for himself and the bottom. The bottom’s hands are usually free, but the position doesn’t allow him to do much more than gripping the sheets or a pillow. The top controls the depth and angle of the penetration.

Screw

The angle of penetration in this position means that the head of the top’s cocktail usually rubs across the bottom’s prostate, making sex hotter and more fun.

The Screw is like a cross between missionary and spooning, except that instead of the bottom to lie on his back with his legs spread as in missionary, he lies on his side, with his legs closer together and knees bent. So we could say the top is in the missionary position while the bottom is in the spooning position. The top penetrates the bottom in this position.

Their hands are free, and everything from choking to kissing is possible.

Danseur

The name of this position is ‘dancer’ in French, and this position requires you to have as much flexibility and stamina as one. You can think of this as a form of extended doggy, and the bottom must have superb balance.

He bends over at the waist, bracing himself against the wall or a chair, and lifts one leg up so that he’s balanced on only one leg. The top now stands behind him and penetrates him from behind. It’s a great way to get a light workout and scratch an itch at the same time if you get what we mean.

Launchpad

This position is super sensual and intimate. It allows for deep penetration. The top is however in complete control of the bottom, so keep this in mind. The bottom lies on his back, and brings his knees up, tucking them in towards his chest and bringing his feet together. The top then stands and penetrates him.

There are many sex positions out there, and with a little research and practice, you’ll be sure to find the ones that’ll add that zing to your sex life.