There are many gender identities and sexual orientations that anyone can feel connected to or identify with.
More and more terms have been popularized over the years to represents the emotions and experiences of queer individuals and if you aren’t immersed in the LGBTQ+ culture or the queer community, you might not recognize a few sexual orientations and gender identities due to a lack of representation in mainstream media.
One such term is abrosexual, so we are going to explain what abrosexuality means, talk about its’ fabulous five-stripe flag, and help you become a better ally to abrosexual individuals.
In this article we will cover...
- What Does Abrosexual Mean?
- The Abrosexual Pride Flag Meaning
- When Is Abrosexual Pride Day?
- Other Abrosexual Information That Will Help You Be A Better Ally
What Does Abrosexual Mean?
An abrosexual individual is one whose sexuality is changing or fluid. They may be one sexuality today and be another tomorrow. The timeframe to change an abrosexual individuals’ sexual orientation doesn’t matter, and it could be hours or years before they identify as different sexuality.
Sexuality varies between individuals, so one’s timeframe may be regular, and someone else’s might be erratic. Some abrosexual individuals may be fluid between a broad range of all different sexualities, while it might not be as many for others.
For instance, one person can only fluctuate between asexual, lesbian, and pansexual, while another can fluctuate between all of them. How someone feels attraction or the intensity of the attraction can also change.
Keep in mind that abrosexuality only affects sexual desire and not romantic desire. For instance, an abrosexual individual could be dating a boy and not be sexually attracted to him one day or another. But, they would still want him romantically. Some circumstances may trigger specific attractions. However, in most cases, it’s unpredictable.
Every abrosexuals experience is different and unique. Abrosexual people can fall under the asexual spectrum since they can sometimes identify as asexual. The multisexuality umbrella includes individuals that are sexually or romantically attracted to more than one gender.
While this is a general definition, if you are wanting to know what does abrosexual means to a specific individual, it is often best to ask them to define it in their own words for you. Be mindful that while some identities may have only slight differences from others, they may still mean a lot to someone.
All you need to remember is that everyone’s experience of gender and attraction is different – and that it is for them alone to define.
The Abrosexual Pride Flag Meaning
There are many different LGBTQ flags representing most queer identities, so it should come as no surprise there is a flag for abrosexual people to proudly fly.
The abrosexual flag is made up of five colors. There’s dark green, light green, white, baby pink, and rich pink from top to bottom. It isn’t known why these colors were specifically chosen for the abrosexual flag. One Tumblr user on the page abrosexual learning shared their interpretation of what the flag’s colors mean.
They said, “Green represents a queer attraction, the fade to white is for the in-between stage of attraction shifting, and pink is for the actual shift itself. Also, the colors match that of watermelon, which could be a fun pun on the /fluidity/ of our orientation.”
The abrosexual flag was created by Mod Chad of pride flags-for-us after an anonymous Tumblr user requested it. It is also thought that the flag and the term originated on DeviantArt in 2013 and later gained recognition on Tumblr.
When Is Abrosexual Pride Day?
Awareness, visibility, remembrance, and celebration are all important in increasing the acceptance and recognition of queer identities and queer folx around the world. By observing an international day for abrosexuality, it is easier to for abrosexuals to talk to friends and loved ones – and to feel the love. It also helps foster awareness and increased sensitives from society at large.
So, mark your calendar and plan something special (even if it is just a social media post!) for July 2nd, which is Abrosexual Pride Day.
Other Abrosexual Information That Will Help You Be A Better Ally
No abrosexual experience is identical to another. You can’t tell whether someone is abrosexual by looking at them, observing their personality, or their physical aesthetic. None of these characteristics can provide a clue to a person’s sexuality, and this is as true for abrosexuality as it is for any gender or sexual orientation.
There aren’t any limitations or a specific rule. However, abrosexual people fluctuate between multiple sexual identities. This may look like identifying as gay one moment, straight the next day, or demisexual after that. They could switch between different sexualities in random or regular cycles.
Here’s how you can support a loved one who’s abrosexual or be a better ally.
Don’t make assumptions about their sexuality
Before you make any assumptions about anyone’s sexuality, it’s best to wait until they come out to you. If they don’t bring it up, you shouldn’t ask any questions until they’re comfortable.
If they don’t, it’s ok too since they can choose whether or not to come out to you.
Believe and validate their experience
The best thing you can do to support abrosexual people around you is to believe them and validate them if they come out to you. Especially because their sexual preferences may change over time, and they may identify differently at different times.
Many times, when abrosexual people come out, they’re expected to prove that their sexuality, experience of oppression, gender, and love is genuine and authentic rather than just a ‘phase.’
Unfortunately, people with privilege have learned to expect this kind of emotional labor from BIPOC and LGBTQ+ people. By validating an abrosexual person’s experience, you can help to prevent this kind of unfair treatment.
Learn what it means to be abrosexual
In addition, another thing you can do for anyone after they’ve come out to you as an abrosexual is to believe what they say and then learn what it means to be an abrosexual.
Do your research and if you still have questions, ask if your loved one would be comfortable discussing their sexuality with you.
Clear your head
Even if you don’t acknowledge it, you most likely have biases and prejudices that you should confront. It might be uncomfortable for you to realize it at first, but once you realize what they are, you will be able to defy them.
Confronting your biases includes educating yourself about what being abrosexual is. Remember that the LGBTQ community no longer uses derogatory terms such as ‘homo’ or ‘homosexual’. Many instead prefer to use the term ‘gay’, ‘queer’, or ‘lesbian’ to describe themselves, and the most commonly used pronouns for genderqueer folx are ‘they/them/theirs.
Never, ever, ever say “it” – because only a bad human would want to refer to another human in this way – regardless of gender.
Some people like to make crude comments or derogatory remarks and jokes towards queer and nonconforming folx. If you hear such remarks against your friend or other people in the queer community, speak up against such prejudices and let them know it isn’t right to encourage or take part in it.
The same goes for any jokes that are at others’ expense, especially queer marginalized communities and misunderstood identities such as intersex, non-binary, transgender, agender, genderqueer, and genderfluid. We are not here to be the butt of any jokes – and quite frankly, are sick of it. It is not – and never was – OK.
Most times, offensive material is circulated on social media or WhatsApp. Remember to tell people that are making such comments why it’s wrong to do that.
Understand what it means to be in a relationship with an abrosexual
The next step you can take is to understand how abrosexuality works in relationships. It’s common for abrosexual people to be in relationships with people of different sexual orientations and gender identities due to their fluid sexual orientation.
Keep in mind that even though abrosexual individuals have a fluid sexual orientation, they also have boundaries. If you’re in a relationship with an abrosexual, encourage them to talk about their boundaries and changes in their sexual orientation.
Abrosexuality isn’t pansexuality
Keep in mind that abrosexuality and pansexuality aren’t the same thing. This is why it’s essential not to make assumptions when speaking to an abrosexual individual.
An abrosexual individual may sometimes identify as pansexual or omnisexual because of their changing nature. They may also identify as asexual or heterosexual on different occasions.
Help your loved ones understand abrosexuality
If you’re thinking about coming out to your loved ones as abrosexual, it would be best if you prepare. Think about what you’d like to say and how you want to start the conversation.
Remember that you’ve been thinking about this more than they have, so they may need time to understand, and it’s ok to give them that.