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The world of kink is a wide one, and some kinks just do not make sense to people who don’t enjoy them. Whatever your feelings about a particular link, it’s important to remember that once there is enthusiastic consent between two adults and no grievous bodily or mental harm is being caused, then people should be able to practice whatever kinks they like.
And if you feel like being nosy, here’s a piece of advice for you: don’t be.
With that out of the way, let’s talk about one of the more misunderstood kinks: findom.
Financial domination, also known as findom, is a form of BDSM (bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, masochism) activity in which the submissive gives gifts, money, and control of their finances to the financial dominant. It is a form of power exchange in which the financial dominant has control over the financial submissive’s resources and can make decisions about how they are used.
This can include things like setting limits on spending, requiring the financial submissive to send gifts or make payments, or even controlling their access to their own money. The financial submissive is called a ‘finsub’ for short. Most findoms are usually young women, typically between the ages of twenty to thirty. This is because the finsub is usually excited by the idea of s young, attractive woman dominating him by controlling his finances. However, there are also young men who are findoms for gay men.
A finsub – otherwise known as a cash slave, pay pig, or human ATM is a financial submissive. They enjoy allowing a financial dominant to use their money and control their finances. The arousal factor comes from the thought of the dom invading their personal space. For many, a bank account is one of the most personal and private spaces there is, and giving the Dom access to their accounts turns them on.
A typical submissive would be a young man under the age of 35. But some older men enjoy being financially dominated, too. A finsub is also not exclusive to males as females and non-binary people also enjoy being finsubs.
Most findoms never physically meet their submissive. The entire relationship only exists online. The reason for this is because it’s this surrendering of power that is arousing for the finsub, rather than physical touch. Also, many findoms are either in relationships or have other jobs, so they just like to carry out their role anonymously. This is also true for finsubs. It would be very awkward finding out that your boss or older neighbor gets off on spending money on a younger Findom.
The anonymity makes things easier and safer for all involved.
Common Types Of Financial Domination
Financial domination can involve a variety of activities, and the specific activities involved may vary depending on the individual preferences and boundaries of the people involved.
Gifts
Financial submissives will likely to send gifts to the financial dominant. These gifts can range from small tokens of appreciation to more expensive items. Some possible gifts include jewelry, clothes, shoes, bags and even things like cars and houses.
Money
Financial submissives may be required to send money to the financial dominant, either as a one-time payment or regularly. This money may be used for the financial dominant’s personal expenses or as a form of tribute.
Tasks
Financial submissives may be required to perform tasks or complete tasks to earn the right to send gifts or money to the financial dominant.
Control
The financial dominant may have control over the financial submissive’s finances, including setting limits on spending and making decisions about how the financial submissive’s resources are used. They may even have access to the finsub’s account passwords and may be able to stop them from spending certain amounts on themselves and make them spend it in the findom instead.
Consensual Blackmail
This is one of the riskier sides of financial domination. Consensual blackmail involves the financial dominant threatening to reveal sensitive information about the financial submissive to others unless the financial submissive agrees to send gifts or money. This can be a thrilling and exciting experience for the financial submissive, as it allows them to explore their fantasies of being controlled and humiliated.
However, it is important to remember that consensual blackmail is still a form of psychological manipulation and can be emotionally risky if not done consensually.
While being a Findom may seem like easy, free money, it also takes work. For most Finsubs, it is not degrading or humiliating enough to simply ask them for money. Their findoms have to put in the work to make them feel thoroughly debased. This could be by sending them texts and messages calling them useless, worthless, and all sorts of demeaning names. The findom may also be required to do this via a video call or even send them a video message.
If the finsub being made to carry out certain tasks is part of their agreement, the findom also has to come up with a list of certain tasks for the finsub to carry out and think of ways to reward them, perhaps by giving the sub the right to purchase an item or pay a bill for them. Like every consensual relationship, the partnership only continues if both parties are gaining enough for the relationship to be worth it to both of them. If the findom wants to keep the finsub’s interest, they must work to make sure the relationship meets their needs.
Steps To Becoming A Successful Findom
Embarking on the captivating and empowering journey of financial domination (Findom) requires an intoxicating blend of confidence, psychological acumen, and irresistible allure.
To flourish in the scintillating realm of Findom, commence by nurturing an indomitable sense of self-worth and audacious charisma; your magnetic presence should evoke fascination and surrender from willing submissives (subs). Immerse yourself in the community’s glittering tapestry, engaging with seasoned dominants and eager subs alike to weave a network of invaluable support and insight. Sharpen your understanding of consent, boundaries, and negotiation; these sacred tenets form the bedrock of any consensual power exchange dynamic.
Create an intoxicating online persona that is both an extension and amplification of your beguiling true self, sprinkled with a dash of mystery and allure. Remember, in the enthralling dance of Findom, communication is your compass, consent is your sanctuary, and your empowered sensuality is the flame that beckons subs into delightful submission. Step boldly, and may your dominion be both prosperous and tantalizing!
Decide On Your Goal.
Although you can still change and adjust your priorities, later on, you should have a clear picture of what you expect to achieve as a findom before you embark on it. You could also have an understanding of the type of work you want to do. Do you want to have a Findom Onlyfans account and work with a wide range of people, or do you want to have just one loyal finsub? Do you want to have physical contact with your clients, or do you want the relationship to be strictly virtual? You have to think about all these things before you get started.
Create Your Profile.
Where you do, it depends on you, but it is necessary to have an online profile or presence of some sort to improve your legitimacy. You can open an account on Onlyfans, Fanhouse, Fansly, Just For Fans, and other similar websites. Another option is creating an account on ordinary social media websites like Twitter and Snapchat. You can also create a profile on Tinder and similar dating sites. Alternatively, you can create your own website or blog. You can even do more than one. What platform you use depends on your purpose and objectives.
Create Content.
Once you’ve created a profile, the next step is to start to sell yourself through that profile. This is done by uploading photos, videos, and/or posts. These are known as content. This content is to give potential finsubs a taste of what they’ll be getting if they enter into a partnership with you. Fleshing out your profile this way means that finsubs will be able to quickly tell if you’re the one for them without looking for more information elsewhere on the net. Through your profile, you can also connect with other findoms and form a community that will show you the ropes and helps you grow.
Invest In Yourself.
Creating content that stands out will cost some money. You may need to buy fancy lingerie and pay for professional videography and photography. You may also need to pay for premium web design and management if you plan to have your own website. You may also need to purchase a camera, lights, mike, and so on. These things may not be that expensive, but they’re definitely not cheap either. Just think of them as an investment that’ll yield rewards in the future.
Find Your Finsubs.
You can put yourself out there all you want, but it does not guarantee that you’ll get a finsub, unless you go looking for one. Sliding into inboxes may be a step too far, but you can share links to your content in finsub groups, and reply to their messages if you get any. Go fishing, and you’ll probably catch one. Once you do, remember your responsibilities as a findom. Despite what you say or do in the name of domination, remember that your finsub is a living, breathing person with just as much agency as you do.
Treat Them That Way.
Findom is beneficial to the findom and finsub, but establishing the relationship requires a certain level of trust, especially on the part of the finsub. This is because financial domination can become financial abuse if the findom is not responsible. As such, a finsub should be very careful while picking a findom.
There are several ways that a finsub can find a findom.
Online Communities.
There are many online communities, forums, and social media groups dedicated to financial domination and BDSM. These can be a good place to connect with other like-minded individuals and to find potential financial dominants. A finsub can also find a findom on ordinary social media platforms or even on dating and relationship sites like Tinder, Grinder, Bumble, Onlyfans, etc. Both the findom and the finsub should inspect each other’s online presence thoroughly to ensure that they are not being scammed. If there are any suspicious details, then it is best not to begin the relationship at all.
Professional Doms.
Some professional Doms – usually dominatrices – offer financial domination services. These can be found through online directories or by contacting local BDSM organizations or groups. For finsubs, these are often the safest options, as these professionals often understand the need for trustworthiness. As a result, they often have enough information on their social media accounts or pages to make the sub feel like they can be trusted. Also, depending on their degree of fame, the finsub can easily ask questions and verify the authenticity of the Dom.
Personal Connection.
Financial domination can be practiced within an existing BDSM relationship or can be a standalone activity. If you have a partner or friends who are interested in BDSM, you may be able to explore financial domination with them. Both the sub and the Dom have to be enthusiastic about it for the relationship to work smoothly, though, or it could feel demeaning to one party.
Asides from being careful about picking a findom or a finsub, there are a number of rules that should be followed to make a findom relationship enjoyable for both parties. A few are listed below, but it is important to know that these are just general rules that do not necessarily apply to every relationship. They are more like guidelines and can be adapted, adjusted or discarded depending on the dynamic worked out by all the parties involved.
Guidelines For Forming a Findom Relationship
Embarking upon the hypnotic dance of financial domination requires not only a shimmering self-confidence but also a deep understanding of consensual, ethical dynamics and the needs and limits of all parties involved.
Establish clear boundaries and communication.
It is important for both parties to establish clear boundaries and to communicate regularly. Because the relationship is not static, circumstances and tastes may change, and this new information should be shared with each other. In addition, both the findom and the finsub have limits that they do not want to be crossed, and they should communicate these limits with each other. This can help to ensure that the financial domination is consensual and enjoyable for both parties.
Respect each other’s limits.
It is important for the findom to respect the finsub’s limits and to make sure that the activity is safe and consensual for both parties. This includes respecting the finsub’s physical and emotional boundaries, as well as their financial limits. But it doesn’t just work one way. Although much of the power rests with the findom in the relationship, the findom may also have limits that they do not want to be crossed. This may include saying certain things to the finsub, or asking them to do certain things that may inflict humiliation beyond what the Dom is comfortable carrying out. In this case, the Dom should also communicate this to the finsub.
Be honest and transparent.
The findom should be honest and transparent about their intentions and expectations, as well as any rules or guidelines that they have in place. This can help the finsub to feel more comfortable and secure in the dynamic. The finsub should also be honest about their tastes, their requests, and their final situation and capabilities. This will prevent any awkward situation like the Dom making s financial request the sub is not capable of fulfilling.
Provide support and guidance.
Financial domination, just like any other form of domination, can be a powerful and transformative experience, and it can be helpful for the findom to provide support and guidance to the finsub as they navigate this dynamic. This can include things like offering advice on financial matters or providing emotional support. This can also include taking the initiative to set boundaries for the finsub when they refuse to do so for themselves. The finsub trusts the Dom enough to submit to them, and the Dom should not abuse that trust..instead, they should justify it by supporting the sub.
Show Appreciation.
It is important for the findom to show appreciation for the finsub’s gifts and contributions and to make sure that the finsub feels valued and appreciated in the dynamic. This can help to strengthen the bond between the two parties and create a more positive and fulfilling experience for both. We do understand that in some cases, the findom may require that the findom not appreciate them directly. This is to maintain the feeling of humiliation and worthlessness that turns them in.
However, it is also the job of the findom to find subtle ways to show appreciation. This can include saying things like: ‘You’re such a good little pay pig, aren’t you?’. The findom can also deprive them of certain things until they pay the tribute, then let them have those things as a reward. On the part of the finsub, they can show their appreciation by sending tributes and gifts to the findom.
It is important to remember that finding a financial dominant should be approached with caution. It is important to do your research and to make sure that the person you are considering working with is safe and has a good reputation within the BDSM community.
While financial domination can be a consensual and enjoyable activity for some people, it is important to note that it can also be abusive if it is not done consensually and if the financial dominant takes advantage of the financial submissive’s vulnerabilities or lack of financial literacy. It is important for anyone participating in financial domination to establish clear boundaries and to communicate regularly about their needs and desires.
It is also important for both parties to respect each other’s limits and to make sure that the activity is safe, consensual, and enjoyable for everyone involved.
